3.2 For children: Dealing with a major incident
Hello and welcome to this course.
We are here to help guide you through the materials.
You might be reading this because a family member, friend or someone you know has told you about it because they think it might be helpful to you.
We hope that this person is with you now, because reading this together is a good way to start. This means you can talk about the topics that we will look at.
There is a lot of information in this course, so we recommend you do it bit by bit. It's a good idea to take breaks if you want to as you go along. This course will take about 1-2 hours to complete, but this will depend on how fast you read and how long you spend on the activities and questions.
This course has been written for children like you who have had some very big and sad things happen to them because unsafe adults have hurt people. Or it might be because something bad has happened in nature, like a flood or a really strong big wind such as a hurricane. It might be that you have been involved in something like this or someone you care about has. A lot of what we are going to think about may also be helpful if you have other sad and difficult things happen in your life.
In this course we are going to look at how you might feel, what you might think and what can help you feel better now and in the future.
Sometimes when these things happen people may die or get very badly hurt.
Remember: Adults know that these kinds of disasters are rare and that whatever your feelings are about the situation, these feelings are normal.
There are some activities as you read the information pages, or you can do them afterwards, to help with what happened.
To help you learn about how bad things can affect you there is a story you might want to read about when a bad thing happens to a family of beavers. It's best to read it with an adult so they can answer questions or help with how you feel.
You can read this before or after the other information in this course. You can print this story out and read it as often as you would like.
If you would like to skip to the information pages you can do so using the link below.
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It is more helpful if you reflect on the work the child has produced than to comment on it e.g. 'I can see that there are lots of things happening in the picture, I wonder if it was hard to know what was happening' or 'You have written down lots of different feelings, I think you might have felt quite mixed up?'
Please be aware that it's not usually helpful to ask the child to tell you their story, it can make them feel worse. There is also no need to ask the child what they have understood or think about the story in this course, it isn't like reading a story for school. If the child is okay to read the story then this is enough for it to be useful.
Throughout this course you will see the Personal Journal link, below, this is a place where you can note your thoughts as you go through the course - this is private and confidential to you.